Rediscovering Me: Embracing ‘No’ as a Path to Empowerment
Do you ever feel like you’re constantly running on empty? If so, you’re not alone. For years, I found myself saying “yes” to everything and everyone. I was drained, overwhelmed, and, honestly, lost in the noise of other people’s needs and expectations.
That’s when I decided on my “year of no.”
Initially, I believed that I was making decisions based on my desires. But the truth was, I was living for the opinions and thoughts of others. I was seeking external validation instead of asking myself what I truly wanted. I even discovered I was more of an introvert than I had previously believed.
Saying “no,” especially to extended family, wasn’t easy. There’s a certain ingrained obligation we all feel. But with every declined invitation or prioritized personal need, I felt a weight lifting. If this resonates with you, don’t hesitate to seek guidance. Working with a transformational coach can be instrumental in navigating these tricky waters.
The Role of Coaching
As I began my coaching journey, I sought guidance from my own coaches. After all, like attracts like. I believe every coach will at some point, coach clients who mirror challenges they themselves have faced. These coaches played a pivotal role in my transformation, helping me refocus and realign my priorities.
Now, I live for myself. The opinions of others no longer dictate my choices. I’m present in my life, more grounded, and love on a deeper level. With time, I’ve learned to see that most people either have positive intentions or are merely reflecting their own insecurities.
Before & After
Before my year of “no”, I was stretched thin, always seeking to meet others’ expectations. But now? Now, I recognize the power of the word “no.” Every time I say “yes” to someone else without genuine desire, I’m saying “no” to myself. And I owe it to myself to prioritize my needs, emotions, and well-being.
So, if you ever find yourself exhausted from always being there for others, maybe it’s time to be there for you. Remember, if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.